Our lives have changed so much since January 7th, 2023 ... New Marriage/New Life: the blending of two into one, gets dicey at times - daily life on the road adds more dicey complications. This is our story of our life in our 5th wheel RV Home. I post about anything & everything, and if what I post can help someone else, I'm glad for the experience. But from sunrise to sunset, we live our Life for US.
NEW ATTITUDE
Saturday, February 1, 2025
FORESHADOWING THE BEAST SYSTEM~The Olive Tree MInistries
AGREEABLE MOMENTS; Fortuna-AZ
In the wee early morning hours of today, I spent 2 hours on the phone listening, soothing, and trying to give helpful suggestions to a family member bent on self-destruction. When the call was accidentally terminated on the other end, I went to bed with a prayer on my lips and a hurting heart - this person, who I love very much, will end up dying of alcoholism: they will die because they do not really want help. They want a sympathizer … and I cannot do that. I can listen to them. I can offer words of support and encouragement (I steer away from advise, because advise will lead to verbal combativeness); but I cannot - and I will not - sympathize. Sympathy will only complicate an already complicated situation; and I am not going to engage in endless looping arguments where someone tries to justify bad behavior. And I am also not going to rush anywhere to engage in adult babysitting activities with a person who wants to self-destruct.
I'm done with death: I'm not even doing the Angel Babies projects anymore - I stopped that a few weeks ago: all the contact info was deleted from my phones, online accounts, address books, ect. I.a.m.d.o.n.e.w.i.t.h.d.e.a.t.h.
Another morning call came just before noon - when we both woke up; when the call ended about half an hour later, I asked my husband to pray with me for devine intervention, protection, and safe keeping … and sent out a Prayer Line S.O.S. Then, Holland went after a bucket of chicken for supper. He is a good husband.
And we have worked out an agreeable solution to melding our life together: there will be times when we, in our togetherness journey, will feel the need for some personal solitude - and red-head-hot-tempered angst does not have to be the catalyst (we have both had red in our hair, before our heads started sporting all this silvery-threaded-grey 😉)
I have no problem being alone. I was alone much of my life before Bob was a part of my life; and I was alone many times throughout that 44 marriage when job contracts took Bob away from home for 23 days most months - for months on end, several years running.
I was alone much of my life before Holland was part of my life; and I have been alone a great deal of the 2 years we've been married - because Holland had a hard time adjusting to what married life actually means.
Personally, when pain is not spurring the solitude, I enjoy intervals of solitude; so, now when Holland (or I ) feel pressed on by 4 walls and cabin fever … we'll agreeably claim a day or two of solitude, where I will retreat to the spare room. Anger is not the catalyst, anymore - but a building migraine pressing either of our temples, will eventually lead to verbal sparring 😤 Retreat is a good move in that moment of time ✌️
It's an agreeable moment 🤝
Thank the Lord we have finally reached this place 😁
Life is so much better when understanding is understood 😘
The room suddenly feels larger (it isn't, actually; but there is 1 less body in it 😑). Chatter is silenced. He can listen to his head-banging angry degenerate "music" - and watch his chosen YouTube selections … and I, likewise, can listen to my low-key, toned down, love and peace vintage 1960's-70's music … and watch vintage blank-n-white movies that actually have storylines that do not include the 1990's genre of aimless and clueless ho's and ho-down's. I do occasionally watch a vintage 1970's movie, but really by the 1970's, movies were becoming more of a political soapbox arena rather than an entertaining genre. I am selective in what I run past my eyes and through my ears: if I want to be depressed or fill my eyes with bloody gore, I'd skip movies entirely and just surf the {news} channels, like Holland does.
That agreeable moment has put the "happy" back into our relationship ❤️
It's not that I want to be ignorant - I don't: I stay "updated" enough to know what's going on … BUT unless the current "news flash!" specifically involves US, or our current physical location … I'm no longer interested in feeding at the daily news swill bucket that keeps the masses at a constant fever pitch, ready to rumble at the slightest disagreement 🤥 😤 😒 😭
I like a tranquil, peace-vibe, cozy-home environment.
I the comforting companionship of quiet evenings at home.
I like a laid-back togetherness Day; either a mutual "let's stay home and veg all day" … or a spontaneous "my Baby needs to get out of the house" Daytrip.
I like the companionship of planning fun, care-free, exciting, adventurous, exploratory, & informative places to visit; that become amazing experiences to live on in memories: Holland does extensive internet searches; and finds the most interesting things for us to do 😁 👍🥰
But, I also like bumming around the house all day; bare-faced, and in pajamas with my husband – just because we can 👩❤️💋👨
Agreeable moments are liberating experiences.
Today is National Freedom Day - I also like that; I like that We, The People have with the 2025 Presidential Election Vote reclaimed our National Freedom. And, I keep in mind that Elohim is still in control 😁
At the beginning of this week, I posted the first of 52 notes of encouragement for 2025 (1 note for the start of every week). This morning's phone call started this past week's contemplations:
{{This Week: Transition = opportunity to trust Elohim/grow in Faith; Change = Holy; Pray = bold & specific prayers/listen for Elohim's guidance; make diligent Plans = flexible spirit to include Elohim's agenda/His ways higher than mine; nourish my spirt with Ruach HaKo'desh = unconditional agape love; Praise Elohei for my current Season = proclaim hope for the next; accept Elohim's favor, peace, & rest in my life}}
I believe 2025 will be a very good Year, in very good ways, for a very special purpose ❤️ ☝️