May 31st: Well, a year has come and gone, & I've let go of the svelte image of myself I was for a couple years between 2019 & 2022 … where I was down to the weight and put-together self I was before Husband #1. That svelte image captured both Husband #1 & Husband #2 - and I liked it too, that's why I was very happy to get it a go again between 2019 & 2022.
But while both husbands liked that image during pursuing and capturing their bird on the wing; once the ring was on the finger, the toned & sculpted shifted; & fat started accumulating & setting, until I was no longer an on-the-go toned flashy flamingo, but a house-bound plump pigeon. I seems to me that the men in my Life like to rein me in, & fatten me up. Now Bob did like thin women - which I was when we met, dated & married: but, I eventually became a curvy wife as homecooked meals 👩🍳🥘🍲🍝🍞🥖🥧🎂 & motherhood evolved 👶🍼 & grandchildren arrived; my children always had a ample lap to perch on 😂🤣 He never said anything about the weighty fluctuations, but knowing Bob's preference for thin women, I tried to keep my weight at an acceptable limit - while we both recognized the mature woman busty-peachy hour glass shape my thin teenage self had morphed into, was here to stay. I had a very nice home gym set up in a spare room and kept my body toned & sculpted 🏋️♀️🧘 I like to work my body, so this was no hardship for me.
Holland, bless him 🙏, has never said anything at all about my weight - thin or thick: it doesn't matter to him. He met me in my mid-60's 👩❤️💋👨, with my scaled-back-toned & sculpted mature woman busty-peachy hour glass shape; he didn't know me any other way.
I don’t WANT to weigh 115 pounds – that would be too thin for my personal taste, concerning my personal body shape; a comfortable 40 pound shearing would be satisfactory. And I will still be pretty curvy when I shed those 40 pounds, BUT I will also be healthier than I am today. The weight gain 😱 since we married, matters to me 🙄😤 It matters to me because I breathe easier when I'm slimmer. My aging joints prefer me slimmer - and cause me a lot of grief when they feel the weight. I liked my flashy flamingo self during those days of 2019 & 2022 … and I'd like to wear my accumulated flashy clothing, again.
So, in this marriage with Husband #2, I'm doing what I can to curb the spread 🤔❌ while settling into my "thick chick" stage - Holland likes to eat. He likes to eat foods that add to the figure, not reduce 😒 If I say "salad for supper" 🥗 … he brings home a dozen doughnuts 🍩 "so we don't starve" - and he's not satisfied until he puts one in my hand and watches me eat every delicious bite. So, I'm still faithfully working out 🥗🏋️♀️🧘 walking every chance I get between fickle weather breakouts, watching calories 🧐📝👩🍳 as best I can & trying to politely dodge his tasty sabotages. But, at 69, I'm resigned to the fact that this husband likes his aging "chick" a bit "thick".
1) Thick chicks have curves. While I will never - given the body Yeshua designed for me - not have curves, no matter thick or thin: Holland likes me curvy in a rounded fashion.
2) It doesn't matter what I am wearing; or how I have stuffed my ample bosom or butt into it … he will compliment me, saying, "Curves are sexy". And he means what he says - he's not pacifying me to keep the mood light.
3) He's addicted to adrenaline rush … everything dangerously curved: downhill slides, racetracks, sports cars: so, in his mind, his short curvy wife is an open invitation to excitement.
4) Delicious, nourishing, & juicy foods have thick curves curves: I believe I mentioned that my husband likes to eat & snack. He views my curves as Heaven sent full-plate delights.
5) He considers thick chicks awesome because they either know how to cook good food … or they know where the good foods are. I know both. I eat healthy. He likes that.
6) Thick chicks make good cuddle buddies. Holland tells me that I'm like his own personal heat generator.
I like my husband happy.
Thick makes him happy.
But I don't have to be a sloppy thick - so, while he is nibbling on me, I will continue body toning and trying to keep calorie count at a manageable limit to keep my thick from escalating to "ick".
Will Body Toning and Sculpting Help You Lose Weight?
Body toning and sculpting can help you lose weight in some cases, but they are not the same as traditional weight loss and have different goals and results.
Weight loss happens when you create a calorie deficit — burning more calories than you consume. This reduces overall body fat, but the fat loss is distributed across your body and not targeted to specific areas. You may lose weight, but stubborn fat pockets can remain nicolecaroline.com.
Body toning and sculpting focus on improving muscle definition, reducing localized fat, and refining shape. This can include:
Strength training (lifting weights, compound exercises) to build muscle, which increases resting calorie burn and can help maintain or even slightly reduce body fat.
Non-invasive body sculpting to target stubborn fat deposits and improve muscle tone.
Can they cause weight loss?
Yes, indirectly: Toning exercises and some body sculpting treatments can contribute to fat loss if combined with a calorie-controlled diet. Muscle growth also increases metabolism, which can support weight management Lose It!.
But not guaranteed: If you’re already at a healthy weight, body sculpting may reduce fat in specific areas without changing your overall weight nicolecaroline.com+1.
Best results come from combining toning/sculpting with healthy eating and consistent exercise for overall fat loss.
Key points to remember:
Body sculpting is not a substitute for healthy lifestyle changes Anne Arundel Dermatology.
Significant weight loss should be approached with diet and exercise first, then sculpting for contouring Farris Plastic Surgery.
Results from sculpting are most stable if your weight remains consistent Anne Arundel Dermatology.
Bottom line: Toning and sculpting can help you lose weight if they lead to fat loss, but their main benefit is improving muscle tone and shaping specific areas. For lasting weight loss, pair them with a balanced diet and regular physical activity.
And my bottom line is that given my husband's preferences for fatty foods 🥩🥔🍷🍾🍔🍕🥓🧁🍰 🍩 🍨🍪 and a thick wife 🍑 … sizing down will take me longer 🙄 than the projected 1-year I set out to achieve 📅📌 - and a whole new wardrobe 🛍️👖👗👕🩳👜💵: by the time I actually size down, the clothing I was hoping to fit back into, will not be suitable for an old woman; not even a toned & sculpted one 💪 Plus, my lifestyle and life focus has changed 💯 It will be time for a new wardrobe.
After lamenting my domesticated pigeon shape I'm in, we drove into Castle Rock to use the ATM. I asked Holland to let me off at the same parking lot he let me off a few days ago - and I started walking, telling him I'd meet him at a specific place. He went his way … and I went mine.
It was a beautiful Day in the neighborhood:
I was walking & gawking, when I saw this wall mural and stopped to frame it for a picture shot. All of a sudden, Holland was cruising to a stop in front of it, so I spoke loudly to him, so he could hear me above the diesel noise "Move it along, further forward."
Driving out of town, Holland said, "How does pizza sound? Why don't you call Papa Pete's & order one of those cheesy garlic chicken pizza?" So, I did - then we drove to a parking spot along the Mickey Mouse bridge; watching the river and talking a bit while it baked.
Leaving to go collect the pizza, I spotted there pretty colorful things brightening the grass along the gravel turnout:
It was a good Day, today.
Now, it's time to shut things down and shuffle off to bed.
