I saw this post accompanying this picture, as I was visiting a FB Friend - and it resonated with me; so, I am sharing it. It may be helpful to someone …
{{Here is a complicated grief/trauma post:
Why do you post things like this on Facebook? Why not talk to a counselor? A friend? Family? Write it in a journal?
Sometimes I do.
But grief and trauma are complicated.
Sometimes sharing a piece of my story helps me process it. Sometimes I have a thought that I hope might help someone else feel a little less alone. And sometimes… I simply have something I need to say.
I don’t always want a conversation about it. I don’t want questions. I don’t need someone to fix it or even feel obligated to respond.
I simply don't want the personal interaction.
That may sound harsh. But it's not. Just real.
Sometimes I just want to put the words somewhere outside of myself.
We all want to be heard—in our own way, in our own time.
And I think it’s okay to find a healthy way that works for you 🤍
#lifelovehygge}}
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My personal feelings are: don't let anyone tell you how to feel - or when to feel - what you are going through. They can always scroll instead of commenting: the angst is theirs … not yours. Grief does not run on a time schedule. IT just IS. And no one else has to understand it running it's course. My 1st husband has now lived above the clouds for 8 years, & I am remarried for nearly 4; sometimes grief is still triggered & my new man "gets" that. I just ignore everyone else's opinions. Stay strong & surround yourself in the love that still lingers - and the new love that is unfolding & expanding.
This time of year is still hard for me. I am thankful Holland is in my Life - his love literally breathed life back into my limping spirit. And he has made room for Bob's presence in his life, too - he has never begrudged the lingering love my heart still holds softly for Bob. I appreciate that side of my new husband. He truly is a Godsend & blessing. Even with his rough edges, he is perfect for me. Elohim did good in the gifting.
