["I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world" — John 16:33]
When Yeshua greeted His disciples, saying, "Peace be with you" … it was more of a command than a promise. Peace in the literal sense of the word, is not just serenity, but a forced removal of anything that rattles or disturbs us. It’s not just a state of mind, but the removal of chaos, confusion and anxiety. Yeshua was commanding the removal of anything that would cause upheaval in their lives and thus hinder them from serving and obeying Him, with a focused and settled heart.
I can live quite well without drama the need for independence thrives on. I can go from 'Couple' to 'Solo Lobo' in a heartbeat. Holland has found he doesn't like the fallout his self-serving demands created.
Personally, I have always had a settled, peaceful home environment … that was the environment with my 1st husband; and that is my intent in this home, with my now husband, Holland: my husbands are Kings in our homes.
Some of the issues Holland and I have struggled with in our early marriage days had primarily been with domesticity: Holland was a bachelor for decades before joining is life with mine … and while he had told me early on, "the house is your domain - you are Queen, there" … it took him a while to grant me FULL Queen privilege's 👩❤️💋👨
FULL Queen privilege's apply to ALL aspects of the home environment: due to the highly dysfunctional testosterone-driven family he grew up in, Holland didn't understand the Married Empire concept, and stubbornly fought against comprehending the changes 😳😡 that came with installing a Queen in his Kingly realm.
Independent & married don't mix - you're one or the other, but you can't be both.
Most of the changes came with the company he had kept before he decided to keep me; one of those people never accepted me into Holland's life … and I, in turn, did not want that miserable person in our home, mucking up our peaceful vibes with his woman-subjugating rancor. There was a lot of verbal animosity centered around Cal until Holland understood that I will not allow anyone to cross our home's threshold that will drag anything with them that disturbs our home's peaceful vibe.
Our home is our sanctuary. Our home is shared space. Peace needs to reign … and since Holland crowned me 'Queen' and granted me domain reign rights, I intend to have a peaceful environment when it comes to who gets to share breathing space in our kingdom.
Our Home is my husband's kingdom.
There is a comfortable 50-50 roles split.
There is a flexibility to do what needs to be done if the other needs help - like in sickness situations.
Holland shoulders everything else - (I do know the bank balance ;-)) - because Holland has a black and white line concerning male and female roles in a relationship, I don't fight him on his need to shoulder everything outside our home's 4 walls. I'm aware of ALL of it anyway 😉
But the sanctuary energy belongs to me, to make a comfortable, laid-back home for my King.
Friends (people in our lives that understand WE are US = a unit not too be divided by petty jealousies or outright rancor) are welcome in our sanctuary: knaves and enemies can be met in the public square if an audience is required on either end.
Because I took such a hard line stance with Cal - and with the stranger in the AZ desert that practiced the hoodoo-voodoo-santeria-religion … Holland convinced himself 🤬😟 for about 18 months, that I would never allow anyone into our home's interior.
So, when his brother Mark, drove here to the beach the other day to show off his new car - Holland was antsy about him visiting our private domain. But there was no need for the concern: we have had David over here a couple times. Obviously I'm not a hard-liner with everyone; just troublemakers 😉
WOMAN'S WORK; Ocean Park WA: https://roadgypsiesvalandholland.blogspot.com/2025/08/womans-work-ocean-park-wa.html
Anyway, Mark was a welcome as David; the King & Queen were blessed with good vibes, and peace reigned 🤝😊🕊️👩❤️💋👨
Righteous Brothers - 'I Just Wanna Make Love To You' song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Udyqprq46b0)
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