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Showing posts with label peaceful home. Show all posts
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Monday, May 11, 2026

SLOW MINDFUL MONDAY~Self-Care 2026; Castle Rock-WA

Some of us aren’t craving more noise … we’re craving more peace, slower days, and meaningful moments. Some of us don’t feel sapped by calm - we feel revitalized by it.

He's ready to come back; the question now, is, am I ready? It's true the days have been slower - but it's also true that they have been peaceful.

Supper was a stew for two, and it was enjoyable.

The mental thumb screws were not.

It's a complicated situation.
My temper could have rose to the situation; Yeshua stepped in & checked it with a 'No, Val'.

In many ways he is a good man & in many ways, he is good to me, and for me.

But the primary problem remains, and it's a major issue. The over-reaching people he has tethered to him with indulgent self-centered binkies, are all old enough to be walking upright, taking care of themselves, and tending to their own business. My husband is disabled & what he is being asked to do to make life easier for them, is outrageous - especially considering that every single one of them have repeatedly stabbed  him in the back without a twinge of conscious. To my way of thinking, he has spilled enough blood in bending backwards to honor his mother's unfair pledge to take care of the family: my husband is 64 years old … he deserves a break from family pressures: there will always be complications in their lives because they feed on chaos. There will always be something left unfinished & uncertain, because they never deal with anything … they ignore situations until it can't be ignored - then they call Holland to "come fix it".

That I can take care of myself, tend to my own business, and can fix things on my own - is not the irritant, on my end, when he's gone "fixing".

My irritation stems from my husband suffering a great bit of pain, on his {good} days, and suffering tremendously after the Kelso [fixing] days - his fixing days are over; he simply can no longer do what he used to be able to do before he was injured on a job site. That reality needs to be faced by all of them, including Holland.

I kept a lid on my own rising head of steam.

I remembered my calming mantra, of "Choose joy."

After supper, when I was alone … I checked the  snap traps: seeing them still untouched, I pulled them out of the cupboard and cleared the bunk room floor by putting everything back into the perplexing cupboard.

The activity burned off stream.

It cleared the floor of what was beginning to resemble a hoarders paradise.

And I felt a little bit of accomplishment, at the folding of an otherwise laid-back Day.

No more tricky pathway through stacked boxes and loosely stashed yarn caches.

All in all the Day was a good Day.

A little bit got done.

A little bit of hope and promise started & ended the Day.

And joy was the thread that kept it all, neat & tidy.

Friday, April 10, 2026

IN THE MEANWHILE~Shabbat Eve; Castle Rock-WA

The older I get, the more I understand that I’m not looking for a big life… I’m seeking a peaceful one - a Life that is steady to wake up to, feels soft & gentle to walk through, and calm enough to truly enjoy.

I also recognize that I need an adult in my life.

A friendly female friend to enjoy local activities with - would be nice.

Someone to talk with; someone to share my life with - strangers met along the are okay - and not to be overlooked, as they could be angels in disguise. But, I miss MY persons: Bob is long gone, living above the clouds these past 7-1/2 years, & Holland is now gone, too - and though I do miss him, I'm savoring the peace.


For myself, my Days are busy with living, but … I miss my persons. Being in this area of WA does take my thoughts down rabbit trails involving Bob, but grief is no longer a constant companion, & I don't get lost on those trails anymore. And when I think of my current husband, I rein the missingness in sharply, reminding myself that I do not miss being disrespected - that reminder keeps things in perspective. I don't know what tomorrow holds - or what we - if there is still a we, come December - will be doing, but I know that today, right now, things are peaceful. I like that.

Holland is taking care of the bills, and he's keeping me supplied with asthma inhalers: he may want to live a separate life while in the redmill stronghold region, but he does worry about asthma flareups and my faulty heart (angina & arrhythmia). But I've lived with these issues all my life & came to the point a looong time ago, that I trust Elohim with my life 100%: and I will live as long as He dictates. I refuse to freak out about physical death. It happens: it will happen to me some day.

In the meanwhile I continue to thank Elohim for His grace towards my waking up every morning, I tend to my own business, watch a few movies & listen to some rockin' tunes; while designing & crafting in a housebound period, forced on me by the whacky WA weather cycle.

Doing whatever it takes & turning it a thanks filled Day, with a joyful outlook.

New asthma inhaler.

Sarah, Plain and Tall - 1991~The First Meeting:

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u8yXGk61GwM)

Sarah, Plain and Tall~Skylark

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYD7rVvhz6o)  

Sarah, Plain and Tall~Winter’s End:

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gVyd6u7-rPI)

I always thought I would go Home before Bob; I am more than a bit surprised he is gone, and I am still here. And though I have lived 95% of my Life dedicated to walking Yeshua's Way, & I do long to see Yeshua soon … I refuse to let the redmill BS catapult me there, ahead of schedule - I anticipate living my life fully, as long as Elohim grants me that pleasure, & I patiently wait to hear the trumpet calling me to meet Him in the sky.

But since I am here, and I only have but this 1 life to live … I intend to fully LIVE it without the fear of {what if's}, or dodging verbal darts laced with my current husband's "the family" poisoned tactics designed to force a towing of the line: Holland can spend all the time he wants indulging in "the family" hysterics - and now, he is freed up to do exactly that. With all the pollen on the breeze, my lungs are on fire, and every coughing breath I take hurts (I haven't been able to do any workouts at all this week- not even easy ones) - I am not going to fight with my husband over ridiculous people living ridiculous lives … or get sucked into a global fear-mongering wildfire: he can buy a front-seat ticket on the global chaos train wreck; he can scream to high heaven trying to justify "the family" craziness & bemoan & wail his way through the "update!" newsfeed interferences; but I do not have to hop on the hamster wheel, with him. I choose peaceful vibes - if the only way to have peace is to live a separate life, then that is what I will do: and, the redmills, the world; and the rest of the doomsday criers, will just have to find it in their hysterical hearts to forgive me for wanting to halt the hysteria wildfires from encroaching on my life. I have enough of my own concerns to keep my scattered thoughts & my own arrhythmic heart occupied.

Holland has Beast Betsy, & she's available to me, when I need her; but I'm finding that I actually don't mind being hemmed in by the 4 walls of my little home, at the moment - that would have drove me crazy 3 years ago. But, now, it's not an issue: it's actually quite comforting right now. There is quiet. There is space. There is room for reflection, & these things, right now, are enough. It's another complexity in my already complex Life. 7 years ago, there was too much space, too much quiet, and too much reflection in the empty 1,600 sq. ft. home I had then … and I had to get out of the house every Day, all day to feel on an even keel; in my Life, in this moment of Time, sheltering in place & taking the time to be still in my little 400 sq. ft. home, is my even keel. It's a strangeness I am welcoming. I am not worrying about anything. I am not planning anything; I am not really even thinking past what I'm doing in the moment.

Maybe sometime in the near future - when the weather stabilizes, I'll request Betsy for a Day-out-of-house - and see what there is to do and explore, a bit north of here. I want to skip Longview & Kelso, if I can help it. Both have a lot of memories connected to them - Longview, good & sad; Kelso, bad and sad. Something in the other direction seems like a good choice, to chance.


Weather - starting tomorrow.

While visiting some of my blogger friends, I saw that one of my Posts had been featured on a Page … and I'm still doing whatever it takes:

My Post was featured on this Blog Hop

Getting back to “in the present” happenings of today … I've been working on a matching kitchen hot pad set - I need to stay busy and keep my mind occupied with things in the present. Designing is therapeutic to me, crafting is soothing, and the end result brightens up my immediate space. Staying busy with busy work, works for me. I’ve always found calm in designing and crafting: my scattered thoughts need a focus. I completed most of the set last night, and I'm hoping to have the entire set complete by bedtime, tonight.

MOD HOT PAD SET; Castle Rock-WA~April 9th, 2026

And I'll be laying my head down, praying for a friendly female friend to enjoy local activities with, when the weather stabilizes enough to let me outside to enjoy hoped for activities.

Sunday, March 15, 2026

SERENITY SUNDAY~Gen Jones/Self-Care 2026; Castle Rock-WA


Today is Sunday, the Day of the week the Redmills gather; Holland went to Kelso this morning, with my blessing - he wanted to go … and I wanted to clean the house & wash a couple loads of laundry.

The arrangement worked well for both of us.

There is something deeply comforting about no longer feeling the need to follow every expectation, and simply building a life that feels honest, gentle, and right for you.

He collected the mail.

He got to catch up on all the trauma drama gossip.

I got a couple hours of serenity: a clean & refreshed home to relax in … and I got to listen to my messianic music while putting my house in order. I work better with music filling my space - music kinds sets the pace for everything to flow; and that makes housework easier. MPO

I think the older I get, the more I appreciate that happiness does not always look like what others assume it should. A quiet life, a peaceful home, simple routines, and the freedom to choose what truly fits your own heart can be a beautiful kind of richness.

While Holland was gone, I got a full-body workout doing housework:

Full Body Workout Muscles

You can strengthen your muscles in many ways; housework, for example, works all the major muscle groups of your body, including legs, hips, back, chest, abdomen, shoulders, and arms.

Just doing simple household chores or tasks can double up as calorie busting moves and in this way, help you lose weight. Housework involves a variety of movements, such as walking, bending, reaching, and lifting, which engage multiple muscle groups and elevate heart rate. While housework may not be as intense as traditional exercise, it can still contribute to overall physical activity levels. If you’re using house cleaning, or crafting, as a way to increase movement and physical activity, do 20 to 30 minutes each day. To ensure a thorough exercise, it is recommended to alternate hand usage while cleaning room-by-room, creating “muscular balance” so that a person’s dominant side doesn’t become overworked.

I've calculated calories burned on tasks according to my tiny home square footage …

Our 400 sq. ft. Home Floorplan, is roughly the same size as a small studio apartment.

Climbing Stairs for 30 minutes intermediately burns approximately 171.46 calories. Stripping and remaking beds for 30 minutes torches 187 calories. Laundry will be 50-100 calories per hour, which includes actions like loading and unloading the washer and dryer, putting away clothes, and transporting loads around the house. Sweeping floors for 30 minutes could burn around 100 to 150 calories. Mopping for 30 minutes can burn 50–100 calories, but will increase or decrease depending on time and square footage of the house. Scrubbing Bathroom Shower Stalls for 30 minutes can burn 90-150 calories; Scrubbing a Toilet Bowl for 30 minutes can burn approximately 180 calories. Cleaning a Sink for 10 minutes of moderate scrubbing, burns approximately 44 calories. Vacuuming for 30 minutes will burn roughly 100-200 calories. Depending on the time and square footage of the home, this can obviously increase or decrease. Rearranging Living Area Stuff, for 30 minutes can burn 245 calories. Dusting for 30 minutes can burn anywhere from about 57 to 80 calories, depending on intensity & Dusting High Fixtures for 30 minutes can burn about 180 calories, depending on intensity. Climbing a med-size Ladder for 15 minutes intermediately can burn approximately 171.46 caloriesKnitting or Crocheting, both independently, can burn approximately 100-150 calories per hour.

I did the best I could - as high on the ladder, as I could; Kitchen Island bubble glass light fixture.
Oh! The dust that was whisked off these blades was ridiculous!

And, I learned something new … I had to look it up, but it explains a lot

{{11 Unique Traits Of ‘Generation Jones’ That Make People Born Between 1954 And 1965 Completely Different From Boomers & Gen X   

~Nia Tipton/Written on Aug 03, 2025

https://www.yourtango.com/self/unique-traits-generation-jones-make-people-born-between-1954-1965-different

It's not unusual for some people to feel that their characteristics don't quite match up with others in their generation. Still, if you're someone who truly can't seem to relate to either boomers or Gen X, despite being born close to both, it could mean you're part of the generation that's somewhere in the middle. Generation Jones, born between 1954 and 1965, is a group that sometimes finds itself lumped in with boomers simply because of the year they were born. However, their actual experiences and the moments that affected them aren't the same for both boomers and Gen Xers.

Generation Jones was part of some serious cultural and historical moments, from witnessing the Vietnam War to the deaths of prominent figures like Malcolm X and John F. Kennedy, Jr. They heard promises of progress and change while growing up, leaving many of them feeling as if they were "jonesing" for something that never came to them. Their name has several connotations, including the feeling of yearning and craving for what they were never given. It's why Generation Jones wasn't as cynical as Gen Xers or as idealistic as boomers. They were something different, more practical and resilient, but unfortunately, they tend to go unrecognized. They have their own distinct identity that allows them to stand apart from those that came before and after them.

Here are 11 unique traits of 'Generation Jones' that make people born between 1954 and 1965 completely different from boomers and Gen X

1. They were disillusioned by boomers' idealism

For people in Generation Jones, growing up meant having to sit back while the spotlight shined on older baby boomers. It was their older siblings, cousins, aunts, and uncles who were front and center for many of the cultural moments that were happening in the late 50s and early to mid-60s. From civil rights marches and anti-war activism, to the general idealism older baby boomers felt for the change that was coming.

"Growing up in the forward-looking postwar years, boomers were cast as a kind of chosen people, expected to accomplish great things in life. I think we did just that. The Greatest Generation may have survived the Great Depression and won World War II, but we led a countercultural revolution grounded in the noble ideals of peace and justice," explained American cultural historian Lawrence R. Samuel.

Individuals in Generation Jones missed out on a lot of those moments because they were young. So, when it was there time to join the fight, the mood had shifted immensely. They might've inherited the fight for revolution, but the possibility to actually enjoy it was grim. They grew skeptical and believed that this "better future" was not on the horizon. It left many of them feeling like the rug had been pulled out from underneath their feet before they even had a chance to stand. 

2. They were coming of age when divorce was most common

An estimated 50% of all married couples in the United States are predicted to separate or divorce at some point, while around 41% of first marriages end in divorce. However, for Generation Jones, they grew up in a time when divorce had first become common versus now, where divorce is now seen as both unfortunate but a lot less taboo. Because divorce rates began to rise in this country during the adolescent years of Gen Jones, a lot of them witnessed their parents separating at a time when the traditional idea of a family was still something many coveted after.

The timing means that individuals in Generation Jones were maybe singled out and looked at as the ones with divorced parents. That experience had to have been nothing but confusing and alienating for them, and meant a lot of upheaval and change, as divorce tends to do for kids. It means they grew up having to be tough and often emotionally guarded. They were figuring things out on their own and becoming aware of the real-life struggles that their parents were also experiencing.

3. They helped normalize going to therapy

While Generation Jones wasn't raised during a time when conversations around mental health were as embraced as they are now, they did help shape the narrative around therapy a bit. While they didn't popularize going to therapy and being taught the various tools and resources that can help people when they may be struggling, they definitely helped pave the way for the generations today.

According to the American Psychological Association, a majority of psychologists reported seeing more patients seek help for disorders related to anxiety, depression, or stress between 2020 and 2022.

Younger generations, including millennials and Gen Z, have sought help and rid therapy of the stigma that it's only for "crazy people" and doesn't actually help with anything. Generation Jones eventually became the parents of millennials and Gen Zers, teaching them that the emotional struggles they experienced didn't have to be diminished or ignored. They encouraged them to seek mental health support and also modeled healthy expression of communication within their families. 

4. They were sometimes the first to go to college in their families

Nowadays, college is no longer viewed as a necessary step for a young adult to achieve a successful future. According to data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics, in 2024, 62.8% of Americans who graduated from high school that year were enrolled in colleges or universities, which was a significant decrease from 2019.

While college may not be something that young people are enthused about, for those born in Generation Jones, it meant a lot more, considering many of them were the first in their families to attend. Unlike older boomers and Gen Xers, higher education was a normal part of their upbringing. It meant that attending college came with both a sense of pride and even pressure attached to it.

For Generation Jones, college was about being set up to have a future that was built on the sacrifice of those who came before them. They were able to step into rooms that didn't seem possible to them, and allowed them to really gain their independence.

5. They knew what it meant to be bored

Before there was all of this entertainment, those born in Generation Jones actually knew the art of being bored and still. Compared to older boomers who had access to live entertainment, such as Woodstock, or younger Gen Xers who were introduced to MTV, Gen Jones had only a handful of TV channels and was not familiar with digital forms of entertainment.

"Boredom can also be your way of telling yourself that you’re not spending your time as well as you could, that you should rather be doing something else, something more enjoyable or more useful, or more important and fulfilling," explained psychiatrist Neel Burton. "And so boredom can be a stimulus for change, leading you to better ideas, higher ambitions, and greater opportunities."

It meant that they actually had to take the time to be creative and find things to keep them busy. But, they also weren't opposed to just being bored. They were able to develop a real sense of patience and stillness because they weren't used to instant gratification. They were actually able to appreciate time in the moment, because they weren't being raised with constant stimulation.

6. They learned how to hustle

For Generation Jones, hustling was all about how to get ahead and simply survive. Many of them came up during a time when the economy was incredibly unstable, meaning that jobs weren't guaranteed, and they were taught to work hard and keep their head down. There wasn't room to complain, and because of that, Gen Jones learned early that if you really wanted something, it meant you had to work for it.

Neuropsychologist Theo Tsaousides explained that hard work is always a personal endeavor, driven by a person's values. "It needs to reflect your own thoughts, your own feelings, your own circumstances. When you try coming up with your own, you may discover that you have more than one definition. Each time you tell yourself I work hard or I need to work harder you may mean something different."

Compared to boomers and Gen Xers, Gen Jones were told that there was opportunity in front of them, but they just had to fight hard enough to find it. It meant working multiple jobs and side gigs that were exhausting and often underpaid. They respect hard work, though, because it's what has enabled them to get to where they are.

7. Hyper-aware of generational comparisons

Generation Jones is incredibly aware of the comparisons that they get to the two generations they're sandwiched between. From the start, they were expected to live up to the reputation and legacy of older boomers, who were marching for the things that were important to them and always optimistic, along with Gen Xers, who were both independent and incredibly edgy.

However, the reality for Gen Jones was far from the circumstances available to boomers and Gen X. As a result, they felt as though they didn't truly belong anywhere. They were always aware of how they were being perceived, and how they weren't. The constant comparisons meant that they became hyper-aware of their own identities and the things that set them apart from those before and after them.

8. They have the 'trust no one' mentality

Generation Jones grew up in the face of many public betrayals that shattered the perception the public had of certain institutions. From politics to big corporations, those in Gen Jones were brought up with a "trust no one" mentality because of things like Watergate, the issues with war, and all of the chaos and distrust that the American people felt for those who were supposed to have their well-being in mind.

They learned early on that people in power aren't always telling the truth or working for the betterment of those who elected them. The result meant that they were constantly questioning and double-checking to ensure that things were actually turning out the way they were supposed to. They, of course, don't expect perfection, but they expect things to be done with improving conditions and creating a better world.

9. They have a quiet toughness to them

Generation Jones truly learned how to move through the world. Their tough nature stems from being raised during a time when they had to fight for their emotions and were always expected to keep going, even when they lacked the energy. That kind of environment gave them the grit they needed to succeed, even when life was incredibly hard and stacked against them.

Gen Jones wasn't afraid of a challenge, and they never expected their lives to be easy. They just had the mentality of moving forward and not looking back. It means that they're quite calm in a crisis and truly know how to handle any conflict because of how long they've spent picking themselves up.

10. They're masters at talking in-person

Before there were all of these ways of communicating, Generation Jones was the one that knew how to connect with people in person. They grew up during a time when social interactions happened face-to-face or even over the phone. They learned how to read other people's body language, facial expressions, and even the shift of others' voices during conversations.

It means that they were able to really practice and excel in their listening skills, and just being observers. They were able to charm a room because of how much they valued genuine conversations and connections.

11. They find themselves caught between nostalgia and stress

For those in Generation Jones, they carry a nostalgia for how things used to be. Their childhoods were filled with things that brought them comfort, from listening to vinyl records, sending handwritten notes to their friends and family, and actually playing on the streets of their neighborhoods until the street lights came on. Whenever they stop to think about those moments from being a child, it reminds them of a simpler time where life just felt comfortable and even easy.

But as adults, that nostalgia has given way to just stress. They ended up trying to navigate a world where it felt like all of the odds were stacked against them. Similar to how tough they are, Gen Jones was forced to live with the anxiety of what comes next. The balancing act of remembering how things were and trying to navigate their lives in the present can seem quite exhausting, yet it also defines their everyday lives.}}

Today was an eventful & informative day.

 It was also a Day of peaceful serenity.

What Elohim has promised is already prepared - but it requires obedience and trust. To possess what He has for us, we must follow His pre-arranged plan. (Jeremiah 29:11)

Tuesday, November 25, 2025

DIAMOND IN OUR POCKETS; Coalinga-CA


There’s something so joyfully content about that little longing we feel to shape a Life that feels inclusive, quiet, and uniquely ours 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Creating a cozy little life isn’t about perfection - it’s about finding joy in simple routines, making our home feel like a sanctuary, and giving ourselves permission to slow down 🐌 enough to truly savor it. A warm drink ☕️🍵, a peaceful corner ✍️💻🎬📚, a moment to breathe 🕊️ … it all adds up to a life that feels beautifully lived.

I'm glad we are both taking space, and taking the time to hunker down and work on ourselves 🦋 for each other 🥰, for the benefit of the whole 💖

This week, the working has been in slo-mo: we've both been laid low 🛌 by the weather. The gray cloud overhang ☔️ hasn't been helpful, either.

But this morning, we felt well and chipper enough to drive into Coalinga for some 🍕 I didn't get too dolled up … but I did spiff up, a bit 😉

'Blue Mist' Mascara; 'Nude Burn' Crème Blush; 'Pink Sand' Crème Lipstick.

'Soft Brown' Brow Gel & 'White Diamonds' perfume; the scent Holland likes on me.
It was chill enough to pull my denim jacket out of hiding & slip it on.
Coalinga from the Almond Oasis RV Park; 15 min (11.2 mi) via W Jayne Ave-CA
Foggy morning on W Jayne Ave-CA

We ate a few pieces of pizza out of the box, in the parking lot, & people watched 👀 a while before we headed back to Independence.

Holland was treating me to the loop drive I like through Avenal … when he spotted a road sign and said, "I don't think we've been down that road yet. Have we been down that road?" I replied, "I don't think so, either. It's not a name I recognize." So, he turned around at the big barn; and backtracked to Sutter Avenue 👏😊

A short detour home on Sutter Ave.; 22 mins (19.5 mi) via #33-CA & W Jayne Ave.-CA
Laughing together; the best medicine available.

Sutter Ave., is a jump road between Hwy. #33-CA & W Jayne Ave-CA: there wasn't much to see, other than the normal open fields; 1 orchard, & 1 ranch acreage - but it was a nice country drive. I like country drives with wide open fields. And we enjoyed the entire drive to the backbeat of George Strait, Alan Jackson, Randy Travis & Kenny Rogers … this was a special concession & I appreciated Holland's attentive pampering 😎😘

We are diamonds in the making.

Mark Knopfler & Emmylou Harris - 'I Dug Up a Diamond' lyrics:  (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4q6N4fU5PXs)

When we got back home, I noticed Minerva is busting out all over with blossom 🌸 buds 😳😊

I snipped the stamen's out to halt allergic reactions. I'll get 4 blossoms out of this 1 bulb!

We ate a few more 🍕 slices … and had a slice of rolled strawberry cake 👍 for dessert:

This strawberry cake roll tastes like an oversized Zinger roll - without the cream filling.

Then Holland kicked back for a short siesta 😴 - and I did some toning exercises 💪: throughout November, I've been scheduling in some intermediate fasting days too, and I've dropped 10 pounds, as of this morning 😁 If I stick to the self-care practices 🙏, I should be a lot lighter, pretty toned, ✅ & a lot spiritually balanced ✝️ come Spring 2026. That is the goal, anyway 😉

Standing Toe Touches~20 repeats
Bodyweight Side Stretch~20 repeats each side
Bodyweight - Potty Squat with support~20 repeats
5 min = of continual repeats

The rest of the evening passed with relaxed, & relaxing activities, wrapped in contented domesticity.

WIP coming along …
Laundry catch-up.

The making of diamonds takes place under friction - that is true, but done correctly the result is a brilliant gem of immeasurable value.

Today was a good Day.

Happiness.

Well-being.

Exploration.

Contentment.

Diamonds in our pockets.

We are both diamonds in the rough, taking shape, to better enrich our union 💖