Road Gypsies - Val & Holland

Friday, November 14, 2025

THANKSGIVING FUNNIES #1~2025; Coalinga-CA

RAINY CALI; Shabbat Eve~Coalinga-CA

Weather, today; Coalinga-CA

Guns N' Roses - 'November Rain' Lyrics:

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gd6CtzYpDBs&list=RDGd6CtzYpDBs&start_radio=1)

The weather has been foul, here.

Gray, cloudy sky; spotty blue peeking through.

Pelting raindrops, clapping trees, and a vigorously shaken Independence.

Rainy Cali, today.

Thunder rolled pretty steadily across the skies above us, from 1 AM to about 3 PM this morning - my eyes popped open 😳 and my body jumped an inch or two out of the sleep 😴 I was enjoying 🛌 Independence was shook when the first one boomed directly above us; vehicle alarms went off & bright flashes occasionally appeared around the window blinds. It was lively for a bit.

Hard hitting wind gusts broadsided Independence sporadically throughout the Day.

Despite the stormy weather, and gray overcast sky, I set my Thanksgiving Cactus, Chrysanthemum (always risky), Amaryllis, & Fishbone Cactus, on the dining table with high hopes 🙏 they'd thrive and bless my eyes with colorful output during the coming Winter & Spring months.

Holland thinks I "have enough plants, now".

Brightness is skimpy, today. The chrysanthemum is struggling; survival is questionable.

And, I made contact with David; & we enjoyed a good half hour 3-way-convo 👋

One of the topics discussed was the newly elected demonrat muslim destroyer, who will now rule over & systematically turn NYC into a terrorist supporting 3rd world hellhole - and I interjected that now Seattle-WA has it's own newly elected terrorist supporting copycat …

demonrat devil wins NYC mayor’s race: https://www.pbs.org/newshour/politics/democrat-zohran-mamdani-wins-new-york-city-mayors-race

seattle elects demonrat she-devil mayor: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/us/politics/2025/11/13/seattle-elects-democratic-socialist-mayor/

Then

Things took a turn for the worst 😈 as the redmill crazy train 👹 tried to make inroads 😡 and lay tracks 👺 in our Life - which was now beginning to resemble the tempest 😳 tearing things up outside our domestic abode.

Any discussion at all about the redmill's lights a fire in my husband's soul that always leads to an escalating battle of the tongues. Holland insists on stepping to a constant 3-step shuffle, orchestrated by the demanding redmill's; and unfamiliar with the crazy train tempo, I can never quite master the disjointed waltz - so, I've decided to sit the dance out. I don't want to be stuck in never-ending heated verbiage about people he idolizes, and I don't care to know (past what I already have learned). It doesn't take much to fire him up & whip his tongue into a frenzied protective mode for rotten people and rotten behavior patterns when mention of the redmill's is the topic - he will caustically demean anyone and everyone else for the very same things he goes to bat 🤠 for the redmill's over. It's lopsided craziness taking hold 😟 and making our lives miserable 😔

54 days to our 3rd Year Anniversary, and nothing has really changed - nothing will change as long as he caters to, and panders to, those people out a misguided 😵‍💫 mother's plea 🤝 which has led to an unfair burden 🏋️‍♀️ on the both of us.

Added to that … is the overbearing redmill testosterone that poisons 😢 everyone, everywhere it wafts.

I'm not going to be broken by a bully.

Holland is still yanking on the bit in my mouth; and I am still rearing back and pulling away from the painful tugging:

November 14, 2023 Post~MEXICAN STANDOFF IN YUMA~AZ: https://roadgypsiesvalandholland.blogspot.com/2023/11/mexican-standoff-in-yumaaz.html

It can overwhelm & start weighing on you 🤦🏻‍♀️, after a while.

I try to stay upbeat ☝️🙏

I don't allow 😒 a lot of negativity into my life … but it is amazing how much negativity 😤 1 person can stir up.

I don't want to be stirred up.

So now, when he gets verbally combative 😡 & his tone escalates 🤬 - I just shut down, slip my ear muffs on, hear his muted voice … but refuse to engage in shrapnel exchange 🦋

I am not making place in my space for brain freeze, anymore.

Seeing he couldn't drag me into his spiraling chaos, he finally went upstairs to lay down … and I worked some steam off with body toning exercises:

I'm tired of the careening crazy train; my mood matches the gray outside.

Standing Toe~8 to 12 repeats; holding the stretch for a count of 10 (1-2-3 -)

Feeling relieved, refreshed, and rejuvenated … I started mentally preparing myself to drive into Hanford Wednesday to look into the cost of a new pair of glasses - my fancy ones 👓 need replaced since the plastic-coated nose guard snapped off, the other day.

I had kept a spare pair, and the prescription is pretty near the same, so they are workable for the time being; but a new pair is needed to keep eye strain at a minimum:

The nose guard on my fancy glasses snapped off the other day; I super glued it - it won't hold long.

I'm gonna miss these fancy things.

Holland eventually came back downstairs - and is blessedly quiet. Thank You, Lord.

~Holland

~Me

While quiet, for the moment, reigns, I picked up where I left off on another yarn WIP; and set about enjoying the warmth of my little cozy nest this Shabbat eve unfolding …

Current work in progress …

MiYah - 'Because You' Lyrics:

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEXRNlUFQTQ&list=RDjEXRNlUFQTQ&start_radio=1)

Tuesday, November 11, 2025

MOTHER'S WISDOM POINTS

Yep … my mother didn't raise any pansy-asses 😂🤣

My gray matter is still stuck on some of these wisdom points.

HARMONIOUS HOME GOAL; Self-Care~Coalinga-CA

Individual progress continues 👏 & future road gypsy plans continue to be made 💓

~Holland

~Me

Working on regaining & maintaining personal growth by reinforcing respect boundaries.

We're no longer strangers trying to find a foothold … now the hard work begins in building a healthy relationship for the long haul.

The ball is now in his court - he can play punt … or play fair; but no more self-centered-fouls will be allowed to continue.

Holland has grown so used to being referred to (by yours truly) as a neanderthal 🤠 when he's in a foul mood, that he now teases me as "cavewoman" when he thinks I'm being too independent 😉 … so, I laughingly matched his Alley Oop persona with Alley's sidekick Oola's, cheeky & feisty persona 😂🤣

Alley & Oola: red is my neanderthal man's favorite color ;-)

This morning while getting ready for a drive to downtown Coalinga, I broke out my new tube of bright red lipstick - no makeup, no fancy hair (no point with the humidity & open 4x windows); just lipstick to match my pullover.

And, also because it is my husband's favorite lip color 😘

Bright red lipstick stayed on ALL DAY long; I washed my lip stain off, at bedtime.

Leaving the Park, I dropped a bag of paperbacks off at the on-site-laundry building - and was amazed at the mean-looking cactus needles on the backside of the building as we were leaving: those things seriously looked dangerous 😳

A pretty mean-looking cactus; looks spiked with 9 gauge 20-penny-galvanized nails.

In Coalinga, Holland ducked into a little mini-mart … and came back to Betsy bearing gift offering 😁👍

Almond Tree Oasis RV Park to Coalinga-CA; 15 min (11.2 mi) via W Jayne Ave

Scratch Cards - didn't make a score, but I do enjoy them.

We bought a turkey and some bacon while there; then Holland treated me to a loop drive back home 🕊️👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

Passing through Huron (hu - long u * run - soft u), I asked him to pull over at the large grocery store so I could run in a grab some celery and carrots for the pork chop supper I was planning to cook … and exited with some mexican goodies 😉 to enjoy 👌:

Coalinga-Ca to Five Points-CA; 28 min (26.4 mi) via CA-33 N and CA-145 N
Almond Tree Oasis RV Park-CA from Five Points-CA; 28 min via CA-269 S & Lassen Ave
Mexican sweets were spread out over a 3-day period - the pink was too dry, the apple-filled triangle was tasty, the cinnamon pie-crust stars are my favorite.