LIFE IS SHORT: LIVE IT

Holland slipped into bed around 3:15 A.M. this morning; and I was out of bed by 3:25 A.M.

I had been hovering between half-sleep & half-awake: I had been to fellowship yesterday, and Becky's sudden passing from this life to the next had  been touched on - my sleepy cobweb thoughts were tangled up with thinking about Becky's Bobby, and the grieving that is happening now, at their house in Seal River … and those wondering thoughts morphed into flashbacks of my Bob, when he was in the process of shedding his earth body at the OHSU Hospital, in Oregon.

So, I kissed Holland and said I was having flashbacks; and that I was going to get up for a while - drink a mug of hot cocoa, and still my thoughts.

Bob & I married in 1974. I'm thinking Becky & Bobby married in 1976. Bob & I had been to Longview, shopping, and our daughter Stacey was about 9 months old: we were browsing through the Bon Marche store on Commerce, when we saw Becky & Bobby and stopped to chat with them (I knew Becky & Bobby, and Bob had worked with Bobby off and on). They didn't have any children with them - so, either they had left the absent child with grandma, or they hadn't started a family yet. Anyway - long story short: they had been married nearly 50 years when the Grim Reaper with his sickle, appeared on their radar. Fifty years is a long time to share one's life with another; Bobby & Becky were joined at the hip like Bob & I. The grieving runs deeper. The process is harder to lay to rest.

While I was drinking my cocoa, and waiting for the Sandman to pay a visit, I did a bit of  scrolling through Blog Posts … when a May 16th posting from 4 years ago, came up. I read it; and smiled. My friends had been pestering me for months to start getting interested in men, again; they thought I should be dating, and couldn't understand why I wasn't interested in men, dating, or remarriage. They didn't understand - and I  couldn't put my feelings into words that they could grasp. But this is what I posted to my Blog later that evening, following fellowship in Rosburg: {{Sunday - May 16th, 2021: If Elohei prompts me to seek companionship in another marriage; I won’t argue the point – I never argue with Elohim; I may balk, and I may drag my feet … but I never argue. I’m not actively advertising, either. If, and that is a very big “if” things go that way, it will have to be a ‘God thing’ – divinely orchestrated; and will have to ‘rock my world’ just like Bob’s sudden presence in my life did in 1974 – and every second of every day for the 44 years he shared his life and love with me.}}

Sunday, May 16, 2021~MARRIAGE/HEAVEN; EDEN VALLEY & A PEACOCK: https://jeastofeden.blogspot.com/2021/05/marriageheaven-eden-valley-peacock.html

I smiled reading that posting, because a year later, a divinely orchestrated meet did happen 😳😉, my future husband's exact words to me while we dated were - "this is a God thing, Baby" 🤝, remarriage did take place 😘; and  my world was rocked 😍

Speaking of - the cocoa mug is empty, I'm feeling the Sandman's effects, and my world rocker is upstairs waiting for me to join him again. I can snuggle close to my big guy 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨, safely close my eyes, and slip back into a relaxing, comforting 🛌; without reliving flashback memories.

Elohim is good 👍🕊️

He is good to me: and He has blessed me with a close companion 💞 that checks every box.

I am blessed 😇

Life is short, but thanks to Elohim's divine intervention in both Holland's life & mine - Life is good, again 💕

BE KIND WITH YOUR LOVED ONES

I was born and raised with a military mindset - life is fleeting, and "last days spent together" comes sooner than expected.

I've lived my whole life making sure that intimate family and friend KNOW they are loved: every second of every day - especially when leaving my home … because a return, is not guaranteed.

Life is short.

Time is precious.

Forgive often, and love always 😘

WHILE WE WAIT IN LINE

 

Every minute someone leaves this world behind.

We are all in “the line” without knowing it.

We never know how many people are before us.

We can not move to the back of the line.

We can not step out of the line.

We can not avoid the line.

So while we wait in line …

Make moments count.

Make priorities.

Make the time.

Make your gifts known.

Make a nobody feel like a somebody.

Make your voice heard.

Make the small things big.

Make someone smile.

Make the change.

Make love.

Make up.

Make peace.

Make sure to tell your people they are loved.

Make sure to have no regrets.

Make sure you are ready.

THE DAY IS TODAY …

Barely the day started and... it's already six in the evening.

Barely arrived on Monday and it's already Friday.

And the month is already over.

And the year is almost over.

And already 40, 50 or 60 years of our lives have passed.

And we realize that we lost our parents, friends.

And we realize it's too late to go back – everything passed us by while we were waiting for the ‘right time’ to get started.

So: let's try, despite everything, to enjoy the remaining time.

Let's keep looking for activities that we like.

Let's put some color in our grey.

Let's smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts.

And despite everything, we must continue to enjoy with serenity this time we have left.

Let's try to eliminate the “after’s”.

I'll do it after...

I'll say it after...

I'll think about it after...

We leave everything for later like {after} is ours.

Because what we don't understand is that:

Afterwards, the coffee gets cold.

Afterwards, priorities change.

Afterwards, the charm is broken.

Afterwards, health passes.

Afterwards, the kids grow up.

Afterwards parents get old.

Afterwards, promises are forgotten.

Afterwards, the day becomes the night.

Afterwards life ends.

And then it's often too late.

So; let's leave nothing for later.

Because waiting, we can lose the best moments; the best experiences.

Best friends,

The best family.

The day is today.

The moment is now.

We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone what needs to be done right away.

Live your life.

Don’t wait for the right time.

It doesn’t exist.